Had a interesting conversation with a friend I made an interesting revelation:
A:
Just looking forward to the weekend. Been a busy week.
K:
I think that a lot of Western people live life by weeks.
A:
Thats how our society is based. M-F.
K:
I hear a lot of people say, "I had a horrible/fantastic week" "I have two more weeks left!" etc...
K:
And if you talk with them on Monday mornings, they will usually ask, "How was your weekend?" Although my school schedule is in weeks, I don't think I have a strong sense of dividing life by weeks as much the Westerners do.
K:
Partly because I have always had school on Saturdays, and work on Sundays..
A:
What do you do?
K:
But I refresh my brain daily, and try to have a fresh start by seasons.
A:
Good point.
Exactly over the last two months i have been focusing on many projects. I have achieved all the goals I have set forward to do. Yet I went through a great deal of stress to acomplish those goals. I reflected and wonder if I had to repeat the same scenerio again if I could do it without the stress.
Better planning? No.
Better people? No.
More time? Well... Who couldn't use more time in their day for anything?
I came to the conclusion that I did not account for additional time to relax and refresh my mind enough. I usually ended looking forward to the weekend and chilling then. Thats not enough.
After the above conversation I decided to dedicated at least 1 hour daily to refresh my mind and renew my focus. This should help to deal with the future trials and tribulations.
When I focus and set out to complete a goal, Everything get prioritized. If who or whatever does benefit me in achieving my goal then it gets dropped. Cold? Yes, undeniably so. I could complete my goals or waste time on unimportant issues and dealing with problems.
I began to follow this approach over the last year. It worked. But it could work much better. Over the last couple of months I refined it, became even more colder, more focused and dedicated.
The biggest step made was to drop others people drama. That made me much more focused and less stressed. I believe some people are emotional charity cases. You know the type, "My life is shit, i'm so confused". Yet these people don't want to get off their ass and fix their own lives. They expect that by bitching to people about their problems that people will help them. People do help them, but the cycle still continues. They don't take control of their lives. Don't get me wrong, its always good to help. Just don't make a mother fucking career out of helping the same person over and over again. Hell, sometimes the same people just want drama in their lives to feel important or get some form of attention. Be it negative or positve attention, any form is good enough for them. Always starting shit and picking fights for no good reason. I've decided to reduce my contact with these people and focus my energies on other things.
I have accomplished so much in the last few months.
Previous to this new found dedication, I viewed things in a open mindedly. Open to new ideas and approached things looking at all the angles. I used this "view" in attempt to approach things with the least amount of stress and least amount of negativity towards others. I called it "the don't bring no stress, won't be no stress" approach. It didn't work. Resulted in lack of focus and direction. Resulted in being more re-active than pro-active. That led to Ietting life lead me instead of me leading life. That had to change. Being opened to new things made me realise that you cannot please everyvody, and if don't take care of number one no one will. You can't get ahead without stress in some form.
Now that the first quarter of the year is complete. All short-term goals are complete and long term goals are on track. I look forward to planning for the summer....
Update:
Excuse me sir, do you know what time it is?
4-20-2004 4:20
A:
Just looking forward to the weekend. Been a busy week.
K:
I think that a lot of Western people live life by weeks.
A:
Thats how our society is based. M-F.
K:
I hear a lot of people say, "I had a horrible/fantastic week" "I have two more weeks left!" etc...
K:
And if you talk with them on Monday mornings, they will usually ask, "How was your weekend?" Although my school schedule is in weeks, I don't think I have a strong sense of dividing life by weeks as much the Westerners do.
K:
Partly because I have always had school on Saturdays, and work on Sundays..
A:
What do you do?
K:
But I refresh my brain daily, and try to have a fresh start by seasons.
A:
Good point.
Exactly over the last two months i have been focusing on many projects. I have achieved all the goals I have set forward to do. Yet I went through a great deal of stress to acomplish those goals. I reflected and wonder if I had to repeat the same scenerio again if I could do it without the stress.
Better planning? No.
Better people? No.
More time? Well... Who couldn't use more time in their day for anything?
I came to the conclusion that I did not account for additional time to relax and refresh my mind enough. I usually ended looking forward to the weekend and chilling then. Thats not enough.
After the above conversation I decided to dedicated at least 1 hour daily to refresh my mind and renew my focus. This should help to deal with the future trials and tribulations.
When I focus and set out to complete a goal, Everything get prioritized. If who or whatever does benefit me in achieving my goal then it gets dropped. Cold? Yes, undeniably so. I could complete my goals or waste time on unimportant issues and dealing with problems.
I began to follow this approach over the last year. It worked. But it could work much better. Over the last couple of months I refined it, became even more colder, more focused and dedicated.
The biggest step made was to drop others people drama. That made me much more focused and less stressed. I believe some people are emotional charity cases. You know the type, "My life is shit, i'm so confused". Yet these people don't want to get off their ass and fix their own lives. They expect that by bitching to people about their problems that people will help them. People do help them, but the cycle still continues. They don't take control of their lives. Don't get me wrong, its always good to help. Just don't make a mother fucking career out of helping the same person over and over again. Hell, sometimes the same people just want drama in their lives to feel important or get some form of attention. Be it negative or positve attention, any form is good enough for them. Always starting shit and picking fights for no good reason. I've decided to reduce my contact with these people and focus my energies on other things.
I have accomplished so much in the last few months.
Previous to this new found dedication, I viewed things in a open mindedly. Open to new ideas and approached things looking at all the angles. I used this "view" in attempt to approach things with the least amount of stress and least amount of negativity towards others. I called it "the don't bring no stress, won't be no stress" approach. It didn't work. Resulted in lack of focus and direction. Resulted in being more re-active than pro-active. That led to Ietting life lead me instead of me leading life. That had to change. Being opened to new things made me realise that you cannot please everyvody, and if don't take care of number one no one will. You can't get ahead without stress in some form.
Now that the first quarter of the year is complete. All short-term goals are complete and long term goals are on track. I look forward to planning for the summer....
Update:
Excuse me sir, do you know what time it is?
4-20-2004 4:20